Critical dating mistakes women make… or that unintentional drama of errors.

You may think you are doing fine on a date but encounter an unexpected setback…Here are eight of the most common mistakes women make…

Over-aggression - If you’re a real go-getter at work, you’re most likely using the same tactics that worked in your professional life. This doesn’t mean you should pretend to Not have those characteristics.
Be proud of them…they played a big part in shaping you into the strong woman that you are. But let it take a backseat when you enter the realm of relationships.

‘Cinderella’ complex - sometimes, it feels like we’ve found our soul mate after a couple of exciting dates. It isn’t necessary to define the parameters of a relationship (the “Are we or aren’t we a couple?” question) so soon.Enjoy each other’s company learn all you can about him. If the feeling is mutual, there’ll be no question of a committed relationship happening later on down the road. Wait until those initial euphoric feelings have lessened before you start picking out rings.

Commitment-phobia - It may be that things are progressing too quickly in the relationship, and you’re a little freaked out. Or perhaps you can’t shake off the nagging suspicion that there’s a better deal out there somewhere.
What ever the reason, ask yourself why you’re in serious relationship when you are so obviously not ready. Is it pressure from family and friend? Are you afraid of being hurt? Getting to the underlying cause of the problem makes it easier to solve it.

Hitting sack immediately – If you are looking for a serious relationship… Give it sometime before you slip between the sheets. Having sex with someone right off the bat, emphasizes the physical attraction and down place the emotional aspects.

Remember. Great sex doesn’t equal a great relationship and you can’t make someone love you by being easy.

Just move on – May be there’s someone you are dying to date. That he has demonstrated that he doesn’t feel the same way about you, or he just isn’t responsive advances. Muscling your way into his life isn’t going to help you win him over. Don’t while away the hours… hoping he will come around.

Opposite goals in life – Opposite may attract… that’s fine when it comes to trivial issues. But is important you find out your mate’s biggest goal and dreams and measure them against yours. In the early stages of a relationship, you are infatuated and easily overlook crucial issues.
You believe love can overcome anything. But you don’t want to find yourself in a deep and committed relationship and suddenly realized that neither of you is willing to change your goals to match the others.

Seeking mister perfect - Never have high standard when it comes to choosing your man. Have a clear idea of what you want in a mate… but be flexible. If you can’t seen to find the right guy, you may be to particular.Does he really have to be a six footer with black hair and blue eyes? Maintain your standard but try to keep it realistic.

Settling for less – On the other hand don’t be tempted to settle into a less-than-ideal relationship simply for the security it efforts. You can really sell yourself short by adapting the ‘at least, I’m not single’ attitude. You are only cheating yourself out of a successful relationship.

SEXPLOITATION..story on his struggle in bollywood

I am 30 year old man.I shifted to Mumbai from Kolkata almost nine years ago.. to pursue a career in films.

Beginnings
(The film industry is the best place to be in. I want to be a part of it all my life,) is what most budding say at every awards function.
This holds true only for star aspirants from well-to-do families. But what about those who leave their homes in search of stardom?

Industry men are said to openly exploit women for roles. But not much has been written about the couch on which men have to sleep for work.
When my father’s friend heard that I wanted to become an actor, he cast me in a small role in his film. I shifted to Mumbai. But I was devastated when he died even before the film started. Luckily, I had made a couple of contracts in Bollywood. I bagged cameo roles in two big films.

Embarassing..shocking
I thought my journey in Bollywood would be easy now. Soon, I got a call from a man who claimed to be the casting director for a medium sized banner’s film. But his office was a congested cubbyhole with a dozen guys waiting in queue. When my turn came, I went into the cabin to find a skinny guy.
He asked me to undress and parade in my undergarments. I grew terribly suspicious. I asked around about these shady people and was shocked to hear that the casting for the film had been completed a week ago. I wasn’t surprised to see the office locked, the next day.
A month later, I came across an ad that invited wannabe models and actors to drop in their pictures. A big break was promised to the right guy.
A couple of days later, I received a call from a man informing me that I was the chosen one. I met him the next day and he made me feel like a star. He said he liked the innocence in my eyes.
I was so gullible that I actually started believing I was a born star. He said I needed little grooming. He said he would help me network. I couldn’t believe my luck.

Shifting focus
One say he invited me to work out at the health club with him. I was in the middle of my work-out when he suddenly called me to the Jacuzzi room.
I was shocked to see him sitting nude with his arm around another nude man. They invited me to join them. This was a culture shock to me.
I was embarrassed and ran away saying I wanted to work out. A couple of similar incidents followed including attempts to get physical with me. I was convinced he was gay. I stopped interacting with him.
But I kept meeting similar sorts in my attempts to meet filmmakers. One of them even claimed to be a star secretary.
My experiences convinced me that those in commanding in the industry want your body, not talent. No one does anyone a favour here.

Relationship Life in Mumbai – A self portrait by Rohan

There is so much work pressure when you’re living in a city like Mumbai. Despite being in a live-in relationship, my girl friend and I had no time for each other. She is often on a month shoots, while I too work long hours.
Eventually, she chooses to have relationship with someone she works with. It was more convenient and frankly, I understand where she is coming from, because I wasn’t giving her the attention she wanted.
After it ended, I tried to get over here by indulging in one casual relationship after another. After finding casual sex in this city is easy-there are enough lonely people, without family and friend, looking for it.
I once slept with a woman who had a crazy work schedule that required her to travel a lot. She admitted that she didn’t have the time to invest in a real relationship.
While living in Mumbai allows you the space and anonymity for sexual freedom, the flip side is that there is a constant fear of your partner cheating on you. The secure, long term, wholesome relationship is what is suffering the most.
My girl friend and I are back together now, but nothing has changed. She is currently working on the 60 day film schedule and is asleep by the time I get home. And my work is so hectic that I don’t even have the time to think of someone else. It is almost easier to stay in this state.

7 Ways to great sex

1. Touch: Women love to be
   touched and caressed. Hold your woman, massage her, tease and tantalize her
   playfully with your fingers. Don’t go straight for the kill; pay attention to
   her entire body.
   
2. Kisses: Deep passionate kisses
   are one of the biggest turn-ons for a woman. Looking into her eyes or touching
   her face while kissing can increase the arousal of the kiss. Kissing other
   parts of the body such as the fingers, feet, neck, belly, inner thighs,
   buttocks and pelvis area can heighten her pleasure.
   
3. Emotional Connection: For
   woman, sex is usually an emotional act as well as a physical act. The deeper
   the emotional connection, the better the sex will be for her, and the deeper
   her desire for her lover will become. Share your feelings with your woman and
   tell her exactly how you fell about her. For her, what goes on outside the
   bed-room is an important factor of what will occur in the bedroom.
   
4. Share with her your passion and
   desire: A woman wants to be wanted passionately. She wants to see your
   deep desire for her and feel how much you want her. Pursue her passionately
   and she will be likely shed her inhibitions.
   
5. Take your time: The path to
   orgasm is just as fulfilling as the orgasm itself and the path is also
   important for enhancing her orgasmic experience. Take the long meandering
   road, savoring, pampering and adoring every part of her body along the way.
   
6. Be a master of oral: A lot of
   women cannot achieve orgasm through intercourse. Taking pleasure in delighting
   your woman orally is by far one of the enjoyable ways for her to be satisfied.
   
7. After play matters: There is
   no bigger turn-off for a woman than a lover who immediately begins penetration
   without tending to her body and mind. The period of time immediately following
   the act (afterplay) is just as important as foreplay. Afterplay reinforce how
   a woman feel about the sexual experience and will have a great impact on how
   she responds to her love in future.
   

Man Wants Sex, Woman wants to make love

For most indian men, foreplay lasts about two minutes. Women are better off relying on a vibrator.
Alyque Padamsee, director, P. Dialogues

When there's no foreplay, women fake it and fool men into beliving that he is fantastic in bed.
Jayat Bhatia, actor Vagina Monologues

Finding partner and privacy

If we talk about sex life in bombay its quite bold and open as compaired with other city. Here you can find a partner very easily. Normally in bombay people get their partner in various ways !!
Like sometime one gets a partner, while travelling in sharing auto or taxi, in bus, here relationship start with casual friendship and then converts into an affair

Some people get partner in joggers park, in gym, in clubs/pubs, in college!!
After one gets a partner his search starts for lonely and private places....where they can enjoy with each other.

Some good ways to get a partners are matrimonial and dating websites, internet chatting, orkut and yahoo groups.

If you are looking for short term relation or a nightout, there are various pick up bars, massage purlour and friendship clubs.

There are various good places to spent time with your partner like :
- Clubs & Pubs - These are good freakout places, if your girl is ready to give company!!
- Gardens, Beaches - That is good dating places, but make sure you be in limit there!!
- Water parks - Here you get a great chance to have fun with your partner, specially if you visit on some working days and there is no much crowd
- Mumbai outskirts places (Manori, Gorai, Arnala beach, matheran, panvel etc) - On such places you can hire accommodation on very cheap cost and can enjoy complete privacy.